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Saturday, January 18th, 2014

Suffering and Weight Loss

Saturday, January 18th, 2014

Linda Wagner

For a long time in my life I suffered. Especially when it came to my body. I think there is this overwhelming pressure to struggle to get what we want in life. From a very young age we, especially women, are encouraged to struggle. We should be restricting, counting calories, and exercising! There is no joy in the process. It’s all about aggressive dieting and exercising to get that beach body. You’ve got to look good if you’re going to be of value. That’s the way I lived my life for a very long time. I popped diet pills like candy, restricted my calories (at one point in college I thought 800 calories a day was appropriate), then I would binge eat (because you get very hungry trying to eat only 800 calories in a day!), then I would sometimes puke (thank goodness that was a short lived phase) or try to exercise my meals away, and quite frankly went crazy in the process (think antidepressants, excuses, drama everywhere, and eventually hitting rock bottom). What a sad, horrible place to be in to think that you are not worthy of having just your basic needs met, then flailing around frantically just trying to gain some sense of balance…been there done that. It’s not fun and it’s not pretty either.

The saddest thing to me is that my experience is the norm for young women in this country!! Just think of common magazines. These are the terms that are frequently use around dieting:

  • constrict
  • burn
  • deprive 
  • restrict
  • suppress – as in supress your appetite!! Why?! If you are hungry, shouldn’t you eat?!
  • repress – as in don’t think about it! How?! My stomach is growling!! 

Ain’t nobody got time for that!

The reason I am here, the reason I created this blog and this website and this job, is because it is my passion. Helping others get truly healthy in mind, body, and spirit is my absolute passion project. Want to know why? Because I don’t want any of you to suffer the way I did. It’s a miserable, empty, lonely, and frustrating existence and it’s totally unnecessary. I honestly had no idea how simple and enjoyable it could be to actually nourish my body and feel good about myself. What I found though nutrition was not just food that was good for my for body but also my soul. My mind woke up (!!), I began to truly value myself, my spirit came alive, and it changed me to the core. I know it might sound strange to some of you but changing my diet quite literally changed my life. On one level I was free from physical ailments like chronic fatigue, acne, weight gain, frequent colds & flu…and on a whole other level I came alive. My spirit came alive. Depression and anxiety went away. I felt balanced and a sense of peace that just wasn’t there when I was popping pills, barely eating, then binging, then feeling guilty, and plowing away on the elliptical machine.

Life is waaay too short to spend our precious time obsessing. Lena Dunham said it best,

“I have sort of a Zen body philosophy, I’m sort of like: we’re one weight one day, we’re one weight another day, and some day our body just doesn’t even exist at all! It’s just a vessel I’ve been given to move through this life. I think about my body as a tool to do the stuff I need to do, but not the be all and end all of my existence. Which sounds like I spent a week at a meditation retreat, but it’s genuinely how I feel. … I think every girl that’s a little curvy can tell you it doesn’t stop you from having sex, it doesn’t stop you from doing anything, unless you decide you should hide in a shame pit because you don’t look like a Victoria’s Secret Angel.” 

It’s not about suffering, it’s about celebrating!! There’s a tremendous amount of joy and ease that comes from the process of nurturing yourself. Keep that as your focus; feel good. I promise you don’t have to suffer to look or feel good. 

The best part is that this form of self acceptance and self love, frees up a lot of time and energy to focus on things that actually matter!! I just want you to know, if you are reading this and feeling lost and suffering in your body and the way you feel, it doesn’t have to be that way. You were put here on this planet to serve a purpose that’s much higher than you can imagine and much greater in importance than a perfect bikini body. Take care of your vessel so that you can share your gifts with the world! I’ll tell you from personal experience, when you let go of the obsession, the weight usually just falls away on it’s own anyway. 

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12 Responses to “Suffering and Weight Loss”

  1. Stacey January 18, 2014 at 2:08 pm #

    Linda I really like this post and I so appreciate and agree with the quote by Lena Dunham. What seems incongruent to me though is this post and the recipes that you frequently post as good for weight loss. Isn’t that focusing too much on body weight/image, restricting, counting calories, etc..?

    • Linda January 18, 2014 at 4:05 pm #

      Hi Stacy,
      Thanks for your comment! Yes, my recipes are all good for weight loss, they are also all great for
      -healthy skin
      -better mood
      -more energy
      -heart health
      -healthy cholesterol
      -digestive health, and more…

      What I try to always convey is that healthy food is healthy in ALL ways. It’s good for you, so it’s going to support the health of all of you: mind, weight, energy, hormones, etc. I talk about weight loss often because that’s what people are looking for, and that’s what I was searching for in the beginning too! I wanted to lose weight, I honestly didn’t care that much about being healthy!! But what I found was something so much more and that was TRUE health in mind, body, and spirit. Where my body wasn’t so much of the focus anymore because I finally realized what it felt like to feel good and that I didn’t need to suffer with calories, etc. to get there.

      I NEVER tell people to restrict their intake! The thing I do tell them is to eat more – more healthy foods! My clients know this because it’s on the personalized program I send them and it states “don’t worry about portion sizes, eat as much as you need to feel full.” That’s because when you eat the right foods, they support the body, it’s a symbiotic relationship so there is no need to restrict. I also NEVER count calories. People as me all the time to post calorie info for my recipes and I won’t do it because I don’t believe in it! It’s totally unneccessary if you are eating alkaline rich foods.

      What I want is for people to fall in love with healthy eating and realize that if we just take the pressure off that “perfect body” and really nurture ourselves with good food, then we will get healthy and we will lose weight if there is weight to lose. Most people are looking for weight loss and so that’s why I talk about it but I also always try to include all the amazing health benefits in hopes that people will understand that true weight loss really is the same as truly getting healthy! I hope that helps answer your question!

      • Stacey January 19, 2014 at 1:12 am #

        Beautifully said. Thank you and Namaste-Stacey

  2. Heather @ The Soulful Spoon January 18, 2014 at 5:03 pm #

    Hi Linda!

    I just want to thank you for writing this. I’ve overcome a 15 year old battle with eating disorders of multiple kinds, however, the temptation will always be there. I feel like nutrition saved me in so many ways after I found it 10 years ago, but I’ve still battled with obsessing over perfection, my weight and more since. Thank you for writing this, because I think we often forget that as women, even those of us who eat healthy day to day haven’t always had it so easy. You’ve been an inspiration to me for three years now, I just want to tell you how much I admire you. I still suffer digestive issues of all kinds, no matter what I try, and I know its a result from the damage I did to my body. I find your blog a constant source of inspiration and always enjoy hearing from you!:)


    Heather McClees
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    • Linda January 21, 2014 at 9:45 pm #

      Thank you Heather!

      Congrats on your journey and discovery into true health and nutrition. It’s not an easy road but it makes us so much stronger in the end! Just remember to focus on things that make you really FEEL GOOD inside, a hot bath, warm soup on a cold day, a walk in the fresh air, the buzz you get from green juice, the peace from deep sleep 🙂 Those are the real joys in life and should be celebrated!! Let’s focus on the things that are good and move more and more towards that. You will never be perfect, none of us will, but you can be happy and that’s 1,000,000 times better!!

      Thanks for being here and leaving me this wonderful comment!! xo
      Linda recently posted…Skin Rejuvenator Juice RecipeMy Profile

  3. nadine January 18, 2014 at 5:04 pm #

    love this post, its something I need to remind myself often as we get sidetracked and only thinking about a weight loss goal. When I am just eating to feel good and be healthy, its easy, but when you feel like you are doing it to lose a certain amount of pounds, I always find it much harder. I think the main goal should always be to just feel better and make your inside healthy!! Thanks for that reminder this morning 🙂 love all your posts and thanks for originally inspiring me to start juicing and making myself and my family healthier!

    • Linda January 20, 2014 at 6:23 pm #

      Wonderful Nadine! Yes, just focus on feeling good and being healthy. The rest will fall into place 🙂

  4. Roberta Kelinson January 18, 2014 at 7:05 pm #

    linda ~ ~
    thank you for your honesty and eye opening blog. i am so sorry that you spent time during your young, innocent years feeling so lonely, so un-beautiful, so unhealthy. but the good news is ….. you have found out who you truly are. you have found a passion for life and with that passion you have brought you life to others.
    thank you!!! for you have made me see how to appreciate and love the body i have been given to possess while i am here. i am learning to love every inch, wrinkle, curve, and grey hair! i am who i am!!!

    • Linda January 21, 2014 at 9:46 pm #

      I love this Roberta, especially “i am learning to love every inch, wrinkle, curve, and grey hair! i am who i am!!!” It’s so important for every woman to loves EVERY part of themselves!!

      Lots of love to you!! xo
      Linda recently posted…Skin Rejuvenator Juice RecipeMy Profile

  5. Bridget Robertson January 19, 2014 at 2:11 am #

    I would have loved to share this article. But, there are no sharing functions.

    • Linda January 21, 2014 at 9:47 pm #

      Hi Bridget,
      The sharing buttons are at the end of the article. Not sure if they were not showing up before, but they are there now! Thanks for letting me know! And thanks for sharing!!
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